Another Old One!

May 9, 2008
Just when I thought the romance was lost...So I’ve been kind of grumpy the past few days because I have not been able to see much of Josh and when I have he’s been sick. I also knew I wasn’t going to get to see him much this weekend because we were splitting up for Mother’s Day. Just this once…. Anyway, I had to work late tonight and I called Josh on my way home to tell him to meet me. Just when I was about to call to see where he was, because it was taking longer than it should have, he rings the doorbell. I go to the door ready to ask what took him so long and he has this cute flowering plant in his hand with a card! My little schmoozer!!! The card said how amazing I was because I took care of him when he was sick and he wanted to get me something to show how much it meant to him that I took care of him. It’s a gorgeous plant with beautiful bright orange blossoms!! I’ll take pictures later! He’s such a schmoozer! That’s why I love him. He said he would always do that type of stuff for me and that he was just getting warmed up!

An Old Blog...

This is from a blog I used like twice, but I want to not forget what I wrote about Leroy!

“I tried sleeping…
Jan 1, 2007

I tried sleeping but I have ENTIRELY too much on my mind!!
1st: I have the most amazing boyfriend in the world! I know I know, girls say that all the time! BUT with the guys I’ve dated in the past, this one is WONDERFUL! Even without the shitty guys, this guy is amazing! I am so lucky to have found him! I definitely thank my good buddy Courtney for introducing us! I can be myself around him…my crazy, immature, thinking too much, worrying too much, loving too much self!! It’s great! And he is willing to spend as much time with my family as I am willing to spend, and he doesn’t get upset about it! He makes me laugh…ALWAYS!! He can even make me wake up smiling…if you know me, you know that is a tough one! In the 2 1/2 months that I’ve known him, he has not made me cry…that is actually a 1st! And when I do cry, he doesn’t get scared off. He just sits there and holds me and tells me it will be ok. Just an amazing guy!!
2nd: Our very close family friend found out about 8 months ago that he had a tumor in his brain. They removed as much as they could and have done everything possible to get rid of the rest of it and the cancer. It has not worked. This guy was like a 2nd dad to me. He gave me my 1st job, was there throughout the end of high school and the beginning of college. I got to borrow his car for trips. He helped pay for school. He taught me how to change a tire. He dated my mom for 3 years. This man would do anything for me and my family! He is an ABSOLUTELY AMAZING MAN!! This strong man is growing weaker every minute! Mom, Ton and I went to visit him a few days ago in the hospital. We tried to make him laugh. He told me that he has prayed for me for the last 20 years. Now, I’m not sure about 20, but I know he has for at least 10. It is so sad to see such a great man in pain. I spoke to his sister-in-law this evening. She was giving us an update on him. Besides having the cancer, he also has recently had pnuemnoia, and they just found how he has a perforated bowl. Now, apparently they would operate on a healthy person ASAP for that, but they told his family that with him being as weak as he is, he would not make it through the surgery. Untreated, he would have 3-7 days left. They decided to try antibiotics, which doesn’t cure it, but I guess it will prolong things to see if he gets strong enough to have surgery…which is not likely. Diane was saying that with the antibiotics he is not allowed to have anything to eat or drink (orally). She said that when she went in to see him he was BEGGING her for something to drink. All she was allowed to do was wet his lips with a sponge. He was pulling on her hand trying to get as much as he could from it. He has gone through so much pain. In getting to know this wonderful man starting 10 years ago, I know some of his feelings. He has the strongest faith I have seen! Right up there with my family! But I know he’s scared! When I 1st found out he had cancer, I felt his fear. I didn’t even have to see him. I just knew his thoughts. It brought me to tears to feel that…to feel it for him. He has been trying to fight this all along. I think he has finally come to the realization that he is not going to win. But I know…I saw it in his eyes when I was there last week. He is still afraid. He loves Jesus…but he’s still afraid. Who wouldn’t be?!?! I just…I just feel for him. He loved/loves our family so much. He enjoyed the time he was able to spend with us. Even after surgery and radiation and chemo…he was asking if he could go to dinner with us. I just want him to not be in pain anymore. I want him to not be afraid. I want him to not have to beg for water!!!!
3rd: I am trying to figure out how to get my ass to Indy! My wonderful friends are up there! My AMAZING boyfriend is up there! It’s just time to go. I need to talk to my boss, but I’m afraid he’s going to say no. I’m afraid he’s going to tell me that I need to work a little harder before I can move there. Which is reasonable…I just don’t want to have to wait!! I’ve waited long enough! It’s time to go up there!
*Sigh* Just too much on my mind to go to sleep!”

UPDATE: The boyfriend is now my fiance and we are getting married in October. The man with cancer passed away on January 9, 2007, just 8 days after I blogged that. And I found my way to Indy!

UPDATE TO THE UPDATE: Now happily married to the wonderful guy and still living in Indy!

My husband is a schmooze!!!

So for Valentine's Day, we weren't really planning on doing anything big. We've been trying to conserve money and such. And seeing as howwe got married in October, went to WY in November, then came Christmas, my mom's birthday(12/27), my brother's birthday(1/7), Josh's mom's birthday(1/7), my birthday(1/16), Josh's birthday(2/1) and Josh's sister's birthday(2/11) all between Christmas and Valentine's day, we were done!!!!!!! Well, Josh in the same mindset that he had for Christmas, did not want to have his 1st Valentine's day with his wife and not do something special for it!! So he tried to be sneaky and went to the store in the morning and brought back another Orchid plant! He said he thought it would match the one he got me for my birthday. It is a gorgeous white orchid plant! It is very complimentary of my beautiful purple orchid plant that he gave me for my birthday! And last May he gave me a pretty orange Sunburst plant for taking care of him! It came back to life all on its own! I think he secretly wants me to start a Greenhouse! Minus Swiss Cheese plant vines! He's not a big fan of those! *Side bar...I really love using exclamation points!!! I rarely use periods* Anyway, we really didn't do anything all day long on V-Day. I've become quite the bum lately! I'm hoping this phase will soon pass. Josh went to the grocery store to grab some steaks for dinner. He had given me the option of getting all dressed up, because he knows I LOVE to dress up, and go out to eat or stay home and have a candlelit dinner! I chose the latter!!! He bought some DELICIOUS prime rib and we made dinner! We then both dressed up and our fanciest outfits and had a beautiful candlelit dinner at home! After dinner he played our wedding song and we danced to it in the living room! It was the BEST Valentine's day EVER!! Josh is so cute and such a SCHMOOZE!!!

One full night...

I went one full night of not yelling at Josh! I came close and he could see it, but I didn't do it! I was very proud of myself! I was also very proud of the fact that he took his wet, snowy shoes off at the door! I guess he does listen to me, I just have to not get so frustrated if it doesn't go my way always!

Side note: I believe I have differenty personalities throughout the day. This morning Josh was off and I had to go to work early so we woke up around the same time. When I was getting ready and he had just gotten out of the shower, we were talking and I was laughing. All the sudden he said, "There you are! I haven't seen you for like 3 weeks." And then he said I should wake up early with him more often! As much fun as it was...I do not see myself waking up at 5:30 am when I don't have to be to work until 9:00 am. But I definitely have a completely different attitude. I used to be the same way with my 1st job and I was at home with Mom. There were a few times that she'd meet me for lunch and she noticed that I was more willing to talk and be in a good mood than when I came home after work. Now I have to figure out how to channel that morning/afternoon person in the evening, when I get home!

Anyway, we're going out tonight with some friends for Devour Downtown. Hi-end restaurants have a special menu for $30/person. You get an appetizer, entree and desert. It's a good time!

Josh's birthday is SuperBowl Sunday! He is so excited! Yay birthdays and Yay SuperBowl!

The 1st year is the hardest...

That's what I've heard anyway! But then I heard that if you can make it through the 1st 5, you can make it through anything! I am starting to understand this concept a lot more. Now, I'm not saying that this is horrible or the toughest thing I've ever been through because by no means is it! But I have GOT to learn to lighten up! I do not like being annoyed with my husband because he takes off his clothes the wrong way, or because he forgets to rinse the dishes, or he walks through the condo with snow on his shoes and I am sock footed, etc. We had a slight discussion last night about why in the world I feel like the way I do things is right and the way he does them is WRONG!!! I sometimes wonder how he made it to a few days shy of 27 without me!! I shouldn't wonder that! He obviously did and did just fine at it! I do not ever remember having to have my way ALL the time with stuff. Maybe his way IS better...but how would I know, because I never let him have the chance to show me his way. I just do not want to be frustrated with him over the stupidest little things. I even try to gear myself up for his different approaches to things. Like right now, I'll sit here and think, "When I get home tonight Josh is going to do something differently than I would like it, but that does not mean it's wrong." The problem is I need to tell myself, "When I get home tonight Josh is going to do EVERYTHING differently than I would, but that does not mean it's wrong." I love this man like crazy! He is completely wonderful and he loves me and would do anything for me! I need to be more laid back like he is! How do I do that? How do I really get through my head that if he does something differently, then I should not get annoyed? Am I the only newly married person that feels this way? I'm sure he's tired of getting yelled at. Does this part go away? I'm hoping it's just because we're trying to learn to live together and bring 2 different styles together...but do they ever come together????????

I found my new calling!

Since Josh and I took that Financial class last winter, and since we've learned how to budget and pay off debt...still working on the paying off part...I have been passionate about helping others learn to budget so that they don't have to stress about money! Now, my only subjects have been non-willing participants. By that I mean, I discuss with them how to budget and have even worked out a budget for someone one time. But that's about as far as it goes. No matter how excited I get and no matter how much I can see that a budget would help...non-willing. This evening however, there was a student who was withdrawaling from class. He is from the Phillipines. Now, some of you may or may not know my feelings with the Phillipines, but those feelings have somewhat passed. Anyway, he has 2 children back in the Phillipines. He works and normally 2 jobs so he can send money back to his family. He had to quit his second job because he was developing health issues from a lack of sleep. He started school so that he could better himself and hopefully get a better job. Apparently he was unable to send money back this past month and the mother of his children said he had to think about if he could really go to school and take care of his children. He is desperate to get a better job. He has his BS in Electrical Engineering. He has been over here for 6 years and is legal. He is just trying to figure out how to survive and support his family.

Onto my new calling...
Yes, it does have to do with the above story. I was discussing what his different payments were for different things as well as what his income was. (This is way above the call of duty for work...but my passion...remember!??!) I want to help LEGALS...not sure if that is PC...set up their resume, get a good job, budget their money and not get screwed when making purchases. Almost all of us are decendents of Immigrants. Why not help those who are willing to do it the correct and legal way to make a better life for themselves and their families?? Heck, I would help motivated, non-lazy citizens do the same thing! Now how do I make a living doing this??? Anyone?

A little bit of EVERYTHING!

So this is going to be a random blog of griping and complaining and laughing and letting you know what's going on!

1. 1st thing that comes to mind that has been bothering me for a few weeks are the toilets at work!! Yes, the toilets! 1st off, they don't make the stalls big enough for anyone! Not big enough for you to walk in and close the door! The toilets flush automatically. That is pretty exciting, EXCEPT...once I stand up the toilet flushes on its own. Not a big deal, except it is a SUPER flusher! And since the stall is not big enough, there is no room for me to get away from the SUPER flushing splash!!! So I stand, it flushes and I can either bend down to pull my pants up and get toilet water splashed in the face or I can stand there with my pants down and the toilet water splashes on my legs! Needless to say, I am not happy about either option but I tend to choose the latter! Argh!! And then, if I wanted enough room I could go in the handicap stall. I've done that a time or 2. Plenty of room to run from the SUPER flusher! The problem with this one is...it has a sensitive automatic flusher!!! So if I'm sitting there and move in the slightest to get some toilet paper, the damn thing flushes!!!! Once again making it impossible to run away!!!

2. I'm tired of lazy people! Granted, I am not always the most motivated but if I had no means to eat or live I think I'd be able to figure out how to make some money. Or if I spent $40-80k on a degree, I would like to use it and not continue to work at some random place! If I had a service that would send out my resume and get me interviews I would utilize it to the utmost!! Enough about that because I could go on for hours!

3. Everyone around me is PREGNANT!!! I'm so excited for all of them!! My mom tells me not to drink the water...but what if I want to??? "In due time" as Josh says!

4. St. Nick came to our condo! Not to Mom's, but to our place alone! New traditions with my new husband are lots of fun!!

5. I put up the Nativity set from Aunt Shirley and Uncle Andy! I absolutely love the manger that Uncle Andy hand made me! Too bad the only spot for it is in front of the fireplace! Josh has been wanting to use the fireplace, but it can wait!

6. We went to Wyoming for Thanksgiving and had such a great time with Lis and Kurt and our nephews! It was such a great time! I'm sad they're so far away, but am thankful for the time that we get to spend with them when we visit or they visit! Maybe they'll move out this way ;)

7. Courtney is getting married in less than a year! Luckily she was able to see all the things NOT to do from watching me and my wedding! And luckily I got to see how much she helped so I could see how much I was supposed to do! I think we are going to have our hands full :) It's going to be so much fun!!

8. Ton is making us a blanket chest...that is his wedding gift to us! And maybe Christmas gift! The amazing thing is that the wood he is using is the beam from our old church hall! This is wood that is over 100 years old...maybe 150, I can't remember! But it will be awesome!! Why wouldn't it be...it's from Ton!

That is all for now!